Cynthia Roberts, Romance Author
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How To Make Him Miss You

When a man seems distant or just not as concerned about you as he used to be, it can make you feel so afraid and powerless.  You don’t want him to slip away. You don’t want to feel so insecure.

    • What to do if he is distant and seems to have fallen out of love.
    • Word-for-word love scripts to help you bring him closer than ever before.
    • The secret psychology that makes him want to commit for life.
    • The magic power you didn’t know you had to make him want you.

You want to know what’s wrong–if it’s you or something else.  Most of all, you want to do SOMETHING to fix things.  Why does it seem so hard to keep a man’s attention beyond those early days when he couldn’t stand to be away from you?  Now, it seems that something else is always more important–his work, his buddies, his car. You hate to admit this, but when you’re apart from him, he doesn’t even seem to MISS you.  It hurts.  Yet the more painful aspect of all this is that what you’re doing to try to fix things and get him close to you again is actually… pushing him further away.

Working Hard For His Love Never Works

If you’re anything like me, a man’s distance feels like a threat. You want to be front and center in his life. And when it seems like you’re not, it’s all you can think about.  Suddenly, you start scanning his every move for signs that he just doesn’t care about you as much as he used to.

You have an urge to stop him from slipping away, so you start doing all the things you think will draw him in.  You become extra caring, accommodating, and doting. You become low maintenance so he doesn’t think you’re too much work. You offer to cook for him, rub his back, have more sex. You keep asking him what’s wrong. In short, you’re doing what I call “Overfunctioning”–working hard for his love.  And yet he never stands up and says, “What a fool I’ve been! You’re the most wonderful woman in the world, and I need to shower you with love forever.”

Instead, he gets sullen and moody. He becomes annoyed and angry when you try to get close to him. Maybe he even says those dreaded words: “I need space.”  Then things get even harder.

Overworked And Underloved

As you do, do, and do for a man, and he pulls further away, something else happens: you become frustrated, bitter, and resentful.  You hate that you’re putting so much into the relationship and getting so little in return. You still don’t feel like you’re #1 in his eyes, no matter what you do.  And that’s exactly the problem–all you’re DOING!  The things you are doing to entice a man and pull him closer are actually working against you.

Men fall in love with you because of how much they give to YOU, not the other way around. That’s why they pull away when you try to fix the relationship by giving.  And then when you become frustrated by his lack of reciprocity, you inadvertently push him away even further–because no man wants to be around a resentful woman.  Don’t be hard on yourself, because there’s a reason why you’re operating this way, and it has to do with assuming that what feels good to you also feels good to a man.  You think:  “I feel good when a man goes out of his way to give to me, so it must work the other way as well.”

But it’s exactly the opposite.  Not fixing may seem like the last thing in the world you want to do, but it’s the fastest way to make him feel an uncontrollable desire to be close to you again.

Here are three ways to do it:

Lean Back

Close your eyes and think about what it feels like in your body when a man is pulling away from you, or when he just doesn’t seem to think about you as much. You probably feel it in your gut–a lurching sensation that just feels heavy and awful.

Now, what’s happening in your body when you picture a man pulling away and going further off into the distance? Can you FEEL your body wanting to lean forward and doing anything you can to stop him from going away? This “leaning forward” urgency is what causes a man to feel pressured and cornered. That’s why you need to STOP it by doing the opposite: leaning BACK.

Redirect Focus

What’s happening when you want a man’s attention–and when you want it desperately? Where is YOUR attention?  That’s right–it’s on him! Wrong. The more you keep your focus on him, the more he will turn away from you. How do you stop? By redirecting all your time and energy back to yourself.

Stay Open

Have you ever been mad at a man for ignoring you, and then when he tries to get close again you give him the cold shoulder? How dare he think he can just waltz right back into your arms!  Yet the most powerful thing you can do in such a moment is to receive him and melt right into him. This might be the most challenging move, but it’s so worth it.

 

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Creating Romantic Centerpieces

We all like to create a “wow” factor … you know, that one thing that stands out above all the rest.  Adding a centerpiece to a table that does just that will immediately make a lasting impression.

You don’t have to pay someone top dollar to create something sophisticated, classic, romantic, and beautiful.  You CAN do it yourself.  Floral centerpieces are the usual go-to if you want to dress up your tables, but candles are an easy and elegant centerpiece feature that could save you quite a lot of money, too.

There are countless gorgeous ways to make a candle centerpiece, and we’ve found some of the best. Candles look dreamy and romantic, especially surrounded by a wreath of flowers or hanging from a tall floral centerpiece. From floating candle centerpieces with candles resting in water, to minimalistic centerpieces with a few candles and sprigs of greenery, to easy DIY candle centerpieces, these centerpieces will illuminate your table in the best light. Whether you’re decorating a table for a dinner party, a wedding, a holiday gathering, a romantic dinner for two, or for no special reason at all, you’ll want to include candles after you see these beautiful candle centerpiece ideas.

Just check out my pinterest board Romantic By Candlelight.

Behind The Title

 

           Creating romantic fiction has been a passion of mine, ever since I was old enough to understand the connection between the sexes. I think I was twelve, when I wrote my first love story and like most young minds; I truly thought it was a masterpiece.

            There’s another masterful connection that has been going on now for centuries, and that, is the one between music and literature. There is a full alphabet of songs that have been written retelling a work of literature as far back as the 18thcentury.

            “If I Die Young” by The Band Perry was based on a poem, Lady of Shallot. “Love Story” by Taylor Swift is loosely based on Romeo & Juliet. The artist Sting’s “Moon Over Bourbon Street” was based on an Anne Rice novel, Interview with a Vampire.

            More interesting though, the anatomy of a song has also within its lyrics a pretty fascinating back story as well. For more than five decades, authors have been creating fictional pieces and bringing readers deep inside the lyrics. I grew up listening to my mom’s collection of romantic ballads from the 40s, 50s, and 60s. Those lyrics have forever been embossed on my brain; and I still sing along whenever I hear them. Lyrics like those back then told a story, and they were so strong, and emotional, their affect were everlasting.

            I have a library of love songs on iTunes I listen to religiously, while I write, as a source of inspiration and a tool that gets me in the mood and mindset I need to be in. It is from this list, I began to formulate a series of ideas, followed by cryptic notes on paper, and finally the creation of my Love Song Standards Series. I made a list of the songs I connected with personally, whittling it down to thirty-five titles. That number was quite overwhelming, and I thought virtually impossible to create that many scenarios. So, I chipped away at the songs and their lyrics, until I decided on a top ten.

            I had made a commitment to myself to finish one book a month throughout 2016, writing a chapter every day, leaving me ample time to polish and edit each one. I knew from the on-start, what I wanted my covers to look like. They had to resemble each other in a way that would tie them together, but strong enough for them to stand on their own. My designer Covers by Ramona did an exceptional job tying all my ideas together.

            After Book 6, Chances Are, was completed, my brain was fried. I took a short reprieve and switched it up a bit with a romantic suspense, A Pawn for Malice. Happily, the first two books of my series received a 5-Star Readers Favorite Award, which ended my promotion efforts. I was forced to take an extended break due to personal issues that had set me back both physically and emotionally. My focus now, is to both promote my series and finish the final four titles All The WayIt’s ImpossibleSincerely, and Unforgettable.

            If you’re a lover of contemporary romance, please do check out my Love Song Standards Series. Buy links and descriptions are available on my website atRomanceAuthorCynthiaRoberts.com. Book #1, Unchained Melody, is available at all online retailers for 99 cents.

Embracing Sex Over 60

I’ve been debating on whether or not to let my hair go naturally grey and started to check out images of youthful looking women, who have done just that.  Hmmm.  If, they can pull it off, then why can’t I?  Right?

I think my hesitation has a lot to do with my own sexuality.  Turning 65 this year, has really made me sit back and take notice of my life, who I am, what I have yet to accomplish, and yes, questioning my own sexuality.  It has also made me wonder, what other women my age might be thinking.

Is there sex beyond our fifties and sixties? You bet there is!  Sexuality for baby boomers is full of surprises! We came from the crazy era, of free sex, no bras, drugs, rock and roll, and are now finding ourselves embracing a future, with a whole new set of rules.   First, let me say though, not all of us were experimenting back then.  I was married at twenty-one and raising a family a few years later, while holding down a full-time job.   I have to chuckle.  For many of us mature ladies, the music has changed and the only drugs we’re reaching for are to lower our blood pressure and relieve our joint pain. 

But sex and relationships are AMEN still running full steam ahead!

Are you a Baby Boomer, entering into a new relationship, or doubting your own sexuality?  Do you have concerns about taking the next step?  Heck, you’re probably wondering what the next step is?  Quite simply, it’s at this stage of your life, just enjoy!  Experimenting with your sexuality.  Try something you never dared doing in your younger years.  Take the reins and be the aggressor.  It’s okay to be naughty and wanton.  It’s perfectly natural to want to explore.  Your partner will come to life … I promise you.  Just remember though, if you’re venturing into a new relationship after a long dry spell of no activity, protect yourself.  STD’s are higher than ever amongst seniors so, make sure your partner has been tested before intimacy comes into play.

Sex is also way more different than it was in our twenties and thirties.  Our maturity has made us less uptight, restrictive, and I think way more relaxed about unleashing our inhibitions.  We’ve learned far to often, that life is too short and supposed to be lived to the fullest.  I still think I’m sexy, despite my wrinkles, not so firm skin, and the age spots beginning to pop up.  When I think of what I’ve been through in life, every damn wrinkle is a sign of my survival and strength.  Now is not the time to worry about getting old.  Now is the time to think about grasping hold of each new day we are blessed with and kicking life in the ass!

Sexuality is a thought process.  If you think it, you are.  Relationships, love, and sex, don’t die as we age.  They will, only if you allow them to. There is nothing wrong with still having that desire to be touched, to be close, and to be intimate.  And yes, we can still enjoy great sex, despite how unappealing the idea might be to our children and grandchildren!

The fact is, we ain’t DEAD! We are very much alive, bursting with all the needs, desires, and passions of years ago.  

The Senior Dating Game

 

Is sixty the new thirty?  If you ask the “baby boomer” generation one might be hesitant to agree.  It’s not to say they won’t respond, “Just because I’m sixty, doesn’t mean I still don’t feel like a thirty-year old.”

Times have changed and senior life these days simply is not what it use to be thirty years ago especially, when it comes to dating. As time marches on, those over the age of sixty refuse to be left behind. Now more than ever, seniors are active… keeping themselves in great shape, following the advances in medicine and watching what they are eating. In comparison to generations past, senior citizens are more vital and vibrant about life and living it to the fullest.

Does it make a difference if they are ready for retirement and looking for a partner?  Not if you were to ask them. Being over sixty is just as much fun and proving to be an even more rewarding experience.

Relationship experts will be the first to say that no matter what our age, dating and relationships are just as important to a strong, healthy attitude and a rewarding, fulfilling personal life. Allowing nerves and fear to get in the way of developing a healthy intimate relationship despite our age, is only a deterrent.  Dating most certainly should not be something to be afraid of.

As we reach that comfortable stage in our lives, many of those issues that face younger singles aren’t as significant and rarely exist at all.  Career, raising a family and financial security are not as prominent, leading boomers to be more casual, flexible and less stressful.  Those 55 and older have been there and done that. Life experiences have made them realize that the simpler things in life and having someone to share them with are more important than money, status and outside beauty.  

Entering the over fifty dating scene for the first time isn’t any different than if you were thirty or forty. There is going to be a certain level of nervousness and trepidation. But like anything else in life… if you don’t do, you don’t get. So if you are looking to re-establish a potential loving and fulfilling relationship know that life is what you make of it, no matter what your age.

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10 Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

 

Do you feel like the passion has dimmed in your relationship?  Here are some steps on how to spice up your sex life fast and furiously.

Remember when “date night” was just dinner?  Maybe there was candlelight, flowers and restaurant reservations too.  But if you have little ones tugging at you all the time, pets, a home to maintain and a full-time job that sucks the energy from you, you may need a little direction.  The good news is finding time for a little romance into your daily routine (and remember, the small stuff adds up) is possible.  The key is to be creative and pay attention to the details.

1. Sexting.   It’s the age of change, and yes, men love it when you talk naughty.  Don’t go all X-Rated on your phone, but remind him about a memorable time you had sex – ‘I can’t stop thinking about that time on the beach* in Mexico*’ ought to do the trick. Or, “I love how you …”  “I love how we …”  “Know what I’m craving right now … YOU!”

2. Inviting Bed. For clean /soft sheets use baby powder between the sheets, fluff the pillow, and slightly fold down the covers.

3. Memorable Photos. Have a grouping of some great pictures of you both are awesome visuals to spark memories and want to reenact.  Make sure there ones showing you hugging, kissing, and having a wonderful time together.

4. Candlelight. Soft, golden, flickering candlelight… Awwww Nice.

5. Soft Music. Nothing puts a person in the mood more than bedroom music.  You know what works for the two of you.  Having it playing for when he walks in the door to create the mood and set the stage is like flicking a switch and builds expectation.

6. Diversion. Nothing that can catch his eye more than you. If he’s watching t.v. and you want attention … divert his gaze … you stepping wet from the shower, you undressing, you slipping into a sexy teddy or lingerie, you slowly lathering moisturizer over your skin, you dancing sexy to a song on the radio.

7. Leave Him A Reminder. If your sex life is becoming predictable, try spritzing his pillow with the scent of you he loves most.  Smell is proven to be the biggest evocation of memory of all our senses, a little reminder of what she has to look forward to will keep things fresh.

8.  Me Time.  Pick in a night in your calender and make sure you both keep it free, maybe turn it into an entire date night – book a restaurant or have a car collect you both.

9.  Create a Danger Mode.  Adrenaline is one of the biggest aphrodisiacs there is. Bungy-jumping, rock-climbing, or even just sex in a public place where you might get caught is enough to bid farewell to every couples dry spell.  If that’s a little too dangerous for you … a long, hot sexy kiss before you exit the exit the car or elevator will leave him wanting more just as much.

10.  Quickies Matter.  Don’t underestimate the impact an element of surprise plays on a man’s mind.  50 Shades of Grey was popular for a reason, because it’s an element on every woman and man’s mind.  Let’s be honest.  Grab him the moment he walks through the door after work, or better yet, when he just stepped out of the shower.  Whoo!  He’ll love you even more.

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